Why Do I Feel Guilty for Finally Choosing Me?

If you are a Christian woman who has finally started choosing yourself but still feels guilty every time you do, this conversation is for you.

Maybe you said no and immediately felt bad about it.

Maybe you stopped explaining yourself.

Maybe you decided you could not keep carrying the relationship, fixing the problem, answering every call, showing up for everybody, or sacrificing your peace just to keep someone else comfortable.

And even though you know something needed to change, part of you still wonders, “Am I being selfish?”

In this episode of EESHAH with Arrin Alexa, we are talking about the guilt that can come when a woman who has spent years putting everyone else first finally begins making room for herself.

Because when you have been the dependable one, the helper, the giver, the peacemaker, the fixer, or the woman everyone expects to show up, choosing yourself can feel uncomfortable.

Especially when the people around you were comfortable with the version of you who never said no.

Through Scripture and the leading of the Holy Spirit, we are going deeper into the difference between selfishness and stewardship, why boundaries can trigger guilt, and how to recognize when guilt is trying to pull you back into a version of yourself Elohim is calling you out of.

You will also leave this episode with something practical to help you when guilt shows up:

Pause. Examine it. Choose anyway.

Ask yourself: Did I do something wrong, or did I simply do something different?

Because feeling guilty does not always mean you are guilty.

Sometimes it simply means you are learning a new way to live.

If you are tired of abandoning yourself to keep everybody else happy, questioning every boundary you set, or feeling responsible for how other people respond to your decisions, this conversation is for you.

Choosing yourself does not mean you stopped loving everyone else.

It may simply mean you are finally learning that you are someone Elohim entrusted you to care for too.

Maybe this season is not asking you to keep proving how much you can sacrifice.

Maybe it is teaching you that choosing yourself can be an act of obedience too.

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